Maureen Bandari

WIFEY MATERIAL

Hey guys

Let me start by saying thank you for the overwhelming response and encouragement in regards to my previous post. Indeed that is a topic that we as women guard very close to our hearts and I would love to keep being candid with you guys with an unedited version of me. Having said that, I asked y’all on my personal facebook account what you would love to see me discuss on the blog and majority wanted me to talk about balancing work, wifey duties and mummy duties.

To say that I have it all figured out myself will be a complete lie to be honest but I have learnt a few things here and there that I can share. some I am currently practicing and some I intend to do. Doing this thing called life is never that easy but you have to make the best out of these situations. With that said I would love to tackle one of the most asked question How do you balanceΒ  work, being a new mum, and a wife

Well, I manage because I am made of 100% wifey material duh! KIDDING, πŸ™‚ Can we all agree that balance is a rumor especially when you are a new mum? It’s very easy to put all your focus on your little one and put everything else second.Β  Are you that person that used to have all your work KPIs on point and now your boss is on your neck about reports submission? you knew how hubby spent his time minute by minute and now when he comes backΒ  home you have no clue where he went,what he ate etc but on the contrary you know everything your baby was up to including how many diaper changes she had? well, you are not alone.

I used to be that mum who does almost everything while getting little to no sleep and that basically meant that I was walking around like a zombie. However after a while I learnt a very valuable lesson, You can only give your child the best care if you as a person you have the best version of you! Trying to be super mum does not necessarily make your child love you more than he/she already does right now. Therefore, delegate duties. It’s okay to go get a facial while the nanny looks after your little one. It’s okay to have a few minutes chilling with your partner while your nanny/family plays with the little one. It’s okay to finish up on a report while your partner plays with your little one and feeds her via bottle if still an infant. In short, it’s never that serious

If bending to give her a bath gives you some serious back ache, delegate! If putting your LO to bed is a whole episode of Britain got talent yet you have an early morning meeting, delegate! I believe being a mum is not meant to wipe out your whole existence. Whenever you get a chance to be with your LO, capitalize on it like your life depends on that precious moment

I always tell myself that I am a mother and my position in her life will never change. As long as you know his /her schedule you can do everything else around that. Date nights can still happen by choosing restaurants that are baby friendly andΒ  if you fancy just the two of you, you can always make it back home before her nap. I have done this so many times. It is very easy to shift focus from your partner to your baby but make it a priority to have some alone time be it going for dates or letting other people take care of the baby in the house as you catch up

Balancing family and work in itself is a lot of work. Nowadays I don’t check emails randomly at night like I used to. I always made it a habit not to engage in work related calls and activities over the weekend unless it’s required of me or I really have to do it. This gives me time to dedicate to my family and other things that interest me. In return I don’t do the same to my colleagues and if we call each other it ‘s probably a social call. Work is very important as it fulfils you andΒ  affords you the lifestyle you have so you gotta give it the respect it deserves. Learn to calenderize anything that has a deadline and frequently have a look at how your calender looks like for that particular month. That way, nothing will get you off guard and stress you out with last minute deadlines.The point I am trying to make all in all is that set a foundation for what you can allow and what you do not allow in all three aspects of your life then roll with whatever the universe sends your way.What is life without a little chaos? It’s okay if you don’t have balance in your life, none of us does. It’s a daily struggle, take one day at a time πŸ™‚

How do you balance the roles in your life? let me know in the comment section below.

OUTFIT DETAILS

Blue sleeveless coat: Tailored. see yellow version here

Jeans: forever 21

faux fur sandals: complete fashion

Hair; Make up cloud kenya

Make up: myself

5 Comments

  1. Emilly Moraa

    November 8, 2017 at 1:01 pm

    you’re welcome as i digress… can’t stop but notice all the interesting detail in the decor surrounding you..i love

    Anyway,so this caught my eye ‘Trying to be super mum does not necessarily make your child love you more than he/she already does right now. Therefore, delegate duties’ The same principle applies to new wifey’s like me out here trying juggle an eight to five,manage all house chores,maintain the slay and spend quality time with hubby.I was the kind of person who would get everything done to my standards of perfection until i realized all that was getting the best of me and as you mentioned, you have to be the best version of yourself to give out the same or better.I have learnt to ask for help or delegate whenever i feel worked up/ overwhelmed,with that i get to have my me time to reflect,re-energize and pamper myself because I’m not about the super wife trophy chasing.

    1. Mo

      November 9, 2017 at 10:05 pm

      Exactly! when you try too hard you lose yourself. It’s important to give the best version of yourself and that means taking care of you first before anyone else. They will adjust. As long as your love is pure and you show it whenever you can, all is well

  2. Val

    November 8, 2017 at 4:08 pm

    You look great! Thank you for the timely advice on finding balance in life.

    1. Mo

      November 9, 2017 at 10:03 pm

      you welcome darling

  3. immaculate

    November 13, 2017 at 10:43 pm

    prepping for this transition in a few weeks, thanks for sharing being a FTM can be so overwhelming with all the african societal expectations, but thanks for the reminder that’s okay not to always get it right.

    xoxo
    Imma

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