Maureen Bandari

THE BABY WEIGHT ISSUE, CAN WE TALK?

When I was pregnant, I didn’t add much weight until basically the last month or so. During that time and after looking at my body behavior, I was sure I was going to snap back in a minute, Infact I think during my time there was a high number of high profile women who were giving birth and snapping back in days some in weeks and I was totally encouraged. Like hell blac chyna did it in 2weeks, zari in a month, Ciara in weeks, Beyoncé and serena are doing it just to mention a few. So basically I knew I was set to have my sexy back by the time I was going back to work after my leave….boy was I WRONG

They say breastfeeding cuts down the calories and for sure looking at my pictures at one month post partum I had lost a little something. However, Nobody had warned me that breastfeeding comes with serious hunger pangs as well. I wasn’t even that hungry while pregnant like I was/am while breastfeeding. It’s basically like coming out of a one week fasting period. More often than not I found myself reaching out for bread,left over dinner at night and any available snacks to feel whole again. My idea of eating healthy was avoiding any junk food but I had not figured out that carbohydrates and sugars were equally ‘dangerous’

The thing about baby weight is that You won’t really notice it until the day you need to go back to your life again and it hits you when you can’t fit into your clothes anymore, then you realize you can’t really hide nor suck in your tummy, people are noticing and commenting about how chubby you are etc. The beauty of motherhood is that you can be so focused on your little one to the point where you honestly don’t get bothered by how much you have changed

I was faithful to palmers and bio oil when pregnant to prevent or minimize any stretch marks that can arise and for sure I didn’t get much and this made me so happy. I remember I used to ask my husband all the time to have a look at my tummy if it’s still cute and all with no stretch marks and I always got elated when the answer was “NONE” I woke up from slumber in regards to my weight when one day I noticed more stretch marks around my hips, a few on my tummy and some were actually creeping in on my boobs. I was shooook y’all. That’s the day I realized I was adding more weight instead of losing. With that I started doing research to understand what was happening because to my knowledge I was eating healthy. With google and friends, It hit me that I was consuming more sugar and carbs than I should

By this time I was getting ready to go back to work and I remember having a conversation with a friend of mine about this weight issue and she kept telling me that the most important thing is that my baby is healthy, I will be back in shape later after breastfeeding so I should not worry. Armed with this and my ever high self esteem I went back to work. My kind of work is more field based therefore I get to interact with so many people. Day one almost broke me because you can Imagine having several people giving you their opinion about your own weight .

I remember wondering how these celebrities do it, well we know about some going under the knife but surely it can’t apply to everybody right? I kept pestering my friends about my weight and I am glad I have a good support system that kept reminding me that I am a mum now and have bigger responsibilities I shouldn’t let weight eat me up like that. After several pet talk instances I made a decision to stand up for myself against anybody who will come for my weight.I needed to do this to preserve my sanity and not fall into depression and society’s expectations for me to be back to my pre pregnancy weight that quick

The only reason I haven’t posted much on here is because nothing much fits me right now and as it is I am operating with say 4 outfits day in and out .lol. I do not want to buy loads of new clothes that fit my current size because I do not want to get comfortable and forget that there is work to do. Speaking of work to do,so what I’m I upto now you may ask? well,It’s almost a month now that I have been hitting the gym. Initially I used to swim but I felt like I swim for fun and it’s really hard to focus on it as an exercise regime. I hit the gym atleast 4 times a week now and I managed to get a meal plan from justgymit that I started recently. I am not in a hurry and therefore I have given myself 8-12 months from now to be completely snatched.

WHAT THIS EXPERIENCE HAS TAUGHT ME

1)Always appreciate your body in every stage because when you think you are fat,you might look back sometime when you are fat for sure and realize that it was all in your head at that time

2) Women are always their own worst enemies. So far I am yet to find a man that has anything to say about my weight.The older women generation are more supportive and always tell me to take care of the baby first ,the weight will shade off with time while the younger generation will act shocked and keep telling me how  I have added a lot of weight.

3)Always ensure you have a good support system( I think I may write a post about this) I am extremely grateful for having a good circle of friends and family that take care of me, and encourage me as I work out. They keep tabs of what I am up to and I owe it to them to have a better version of me

4) In as much as the baby is everything, a healthy mama is equally important and I want to be in a position where I am able to chase after her without panting and running out of breathe

It’s easy to compare yourself with others or your current body to your previous body. Personally I keep comparing my current boob size to my previous one and wonder how women with breast augmentation manage because I love me a size small.lol. For this reason my appeal to society is to let mums be sometimes. They are judging themselves as it is and therefore they do not need outside pressure as well, they will get there at their own pace. some eager to get there faster than others.

In closing, another reason I really didn’t want to put my pictures up on the blog was because I know right now there is probably someone who has already taken a screenshot of this and sent to their besties on WhatsApp for discussion complete with shock emojis!!!! lol. However I felt like by being vulnerable and open, I will be able to help hundreds of y’all in my position who are wondering why… why is everyone  losing the baby weight and not me? why is Everyone’s tummy back to being flat except mine?  So and so didn’t get stretch marks ,why me? I’m just here to let you know that it’s okay, all in good time. Just like pregnancy, this period is unique to each and everyone of us. The only question I will ask is what are you currently doing about it??????

LOOK DETAILS

off shoulder matching set: tailored

Hair: makeupcloudeke

photography: john okode

Make up:myself

PS: these pictures are raw, I wanted to show it all as it is and will continue to do that in consecutive post because 8months from now, we need to see progress up in here.

 

19 Comments

  1. Noel

    November 1, 2017 at 9:30 am

    i agree with you weight is always an issue with us women but am glad you are taking it positively you will get back your body when its ready all the best

  2. Sheila

    November 1, 2017 at 11:20 am

    Lol. you are funny. Me love

  3. Yvonne Naliaka

    November 1, 2017 at 11:45 am

    I agree with you.As women we should learn to love the body we have as we strive to get the body we want.I do have a few questions though,Are you exclusively breastfeeding or have you started weaning?Is it safe for you to follow a specific meal plan when breastfeeding?

    1. Mo

      November 1, 2017 at 11:49 am

      I made it clear to them that I am breastfeeding therefore did not want something extreme. the menu is balanced and the main thing its adding to my life is portions and healthy snacks I can eat. otherwise it got chicken,fish,beef,cereals,eggs,veges,lentils you name it 🙂

  4. Ed Omare

    November 1, 2017 at 1:18 pm

    This is encouraging Mo.You didn’t gain weight because you were careless. You did because you gave life to another human being. That’s like the best achievement in life. I’m so proud of you, because you’re not sitting there doing nothing and wallowing in self pity, you’re doing something about it. I always say those tiger stripes are a mark of honour for a woman. Go girl. Kudos.

    1. Mo

      November 9, 2017 at 10:14 pm

      what a beautiful message to read. thank you ED. indeed they are a mark of honour

  5. Emilly Moraa

    November 1, 2017 at 1:46 pm

    you are Hilarious and real Maureen.. i love it. Your journey is inspiring,before and after still looks amazing.Future mama’s like me been taking notes and still will as you work towards your goal.Keep on spreading the positive vibes and before you know it…you’ll be out here looking more snatched than before.

    1. Mo

      November 9, 2017 at 10:12 pm

      awww thank you dear for your lovely message

  6. Esther Mbithi

    November 1, 2017 at 2:11 pm

    You cannot imagine how much I relate to this right now with baby being 5 months ! Thank you Bandari!!! I needed this

    1. Mo

      November 9, 2017 at 10:13 pm

      you are welcome sweetie, all is well

  7. Maureen kebado

    November 1, 2017 at 3:05 pm

    You are glowing mummy ,the weight will shade off after you finish breastfeeding.

  8. Mum T

    November 1, 2017 at 4:08 pm

    Thankyou for posting this am in the same shoe no clothes, no fashion stretchmarks, wight 90 maybe plus. I have a healthy baby but reading your article i might not be able to chase her around coz of my weight av not come across ways of shading that extra weight( baby fat)wouldnt want to change my lifestyle as not to eat carbohydrates i need something real that can work with me and sustainable also coz carbohydrates to me is important. Am yet to find remedies.

  9. Perish lily

    November 1, 2017 at 5:38 pm

    You are an inspiration to many. You are have a beatiful soul and I know you will make it. Buy a skipping rope for the days you won’t make it to the gym….it’s bae trust me! The Other thing that can trigger increased weight is contraceptives. Ensure you avoid hormonal contraceptives .

  10. Sylvialoana

    November 1, 2017 at 10:03 pm

    I love this post! You’re encouraging n inspiring mum’s… I am more encouraged than ever! Keep preaching the good word! So proud of u

  11. LUCINE OCHERO

    November 1, 2017 at 10:46 pm

    You have a valid reason for your weight gain.For now give your baby all the attention, before you know it,she will be breastfeeding less,eating more(after weaning) and you will be eating less and you will get your curvy body back in shape.
    Step by step all these will fall in place.Lastly choose your contraceptives wisely,that may be contributing if not being the Main reason.Cheers and keep smiling.

  12. Faith Namuyemba

    November 2, 2017 at 12:19 pm

    Thanks Maureen that was inspiring.I have added weight tremendously after delivery of baby no. 2 but am taking it positively i will start with going to the gym hope that will help.

  13. Edna

    November 3, 2017 at 8:48 pm

    Totally understand the struggle, weighed 53kgs before &added 20kgs …none of my old clothes & ofcourse bras fit the first couple of weeks i was so eager to loose weight.4months in I was already getting back to my Normal size without much effort,I only tied my stomach , exercised for a week but got lazy guess my body is different.Point is weight can be lost gradually,just give it time with some everyday effort it is possible.

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