When I was pregnant, I didn’t add much weight until basically the last month or so. During that time and after looking at my body behavior, I was sure I was going to snap back in a minute, Infact I think during my time there was a high number of high profile women who were giving birth and snapping back in days some in weeks and I was totally encouraged. Like hell blac chyna did it in 2weeks, zari in a month, Ciara in weeks, Beyoncé and serena are doing it just to mention a few. So basically I knew I was set to have my sexy back by the time I was going back to work after my leave….boy was I WRONG
They say breastfeeding cuts down the calories and for sure looking at my pictures at one month post partum I had lost a little something. However, Nobody had warned me that breastfeeding comes with serious hunger pangs as well. I wasn’t even that hungry while pregnant like I was/am while breastfeeding. It’s basically like coming out of a one week fasting period. More often than not I found myself reaching out for bread,left over dinner at night and any available snacks to feel whole again. My idea of eating healthy was avoiding any junk food but I had not figured out that carbohydrates and sugars were equally ‘dangerous’
The thing about baby weight is that You won’t really notice it until the day you need to go back to your life again and it hits you when you can’t fit into your clothes anymore, then you realize you can’t really hide nor suck in your tummy, people are noticing and commenting about how chubby you are etc. The beauty of motherhood is that you can be so focused on your little one to the point where you honestly don’t get bothered by how much you have changed
I was faithful to palmers and bio oil when pregnant to prevent or minimize any stretch marks that can arise and for sure I didn’t get much and this made me so happy. I remember I used to ask my husband all the time to have a look at my tummy if it’s still cute and all with no stretch marks and I always got elated when the answer was “NONE” I woke up from slumber in regards to my weight when one day I noticed more stretch marks around my hips, a few on my tummy and some were actually creeping in on my boobs. I was shooook y’all. That’s the day I realized I was adding more weight instead of losing. With that I started doing research to understand what was happening because to my knowledge I was eating healthy. With google and friends, It hit me that I was consuming more sugar and carbs than I should
By this time I was getting ready to go back to work and I remember having a conversation with a friend of mine about this weight issue and she kept telling me that the most important thing is that my baby is healthy, I will be back in shape later after breastfeeding so I should not worry. Armed with this and my ever high self esteem I went back to work. My kind of work is more field based therefore I get to interact with so many people. Day one almost broke me because you can Imagine having several people giving you their opinion about your own weight .
I remember wondering how these celebrities do it, well we know about some going under the knife but surely it can’t apply to everybody right? I kept pestering my friends about my weight and I am glad I have a good support system that kept reminding me that I am a mum now and have bigger responsibilities I shouldn’t let weight eat me up like that. After several pet talk instances I made a decision to stand up for myself against anybody who will come for my weight.I needed to do this to preserve my sanity and not fall into depression and society’s expectations for me to be back to my pre pregnancy weight that quick
The only reason I haven’t posted much on here is because nothing much fits me right now and as it is I am operating with say 4 outfits day in and out .lol. I do not want to buy loads of new clothes that fit my current size because I do not want to get comfortable and forget that there is work to do. Speaking of work to do,so what I’m I upto now you may ask? well,It’s almost a month now that I have been hitting the gym. Initially I used to swim but I felt like I swim for fun and it’s really hard to focus on it as an exercise regime. I hit the gym atleast 4 times a week now and I managed to get a meal plan from justgymit that I started recently. I am not in a hurry and therefore I have given myself 8-12 months from now to be completely snatched.
WHAT THIS EXPERIENCE HAS TAUGHT ME
1)Always appreciate your body in every stage because when you think you are fat,you might look back sometime when you are fat for sure and realize that it was all in your head at that time
2) Women are always their own worst enemies. So far I am yet to find a man that has anything to say about my weight.The older women generation are more supportive and always tell me to take care of the baby first ,the weight will shade off with time while the younger generation will act shocked and keep telling me how I have added a lot of weight.
3)Always ensure you have a good support system( I think I may write a post about this) I am extremely grateful for having a good circle of friends and family that take care of me, and encourage me as I work out. They keep tabs of what I am up to and I owe it to them to have a better version of me
4) In as much as the baby is everything, a healthy mama is equally important and I want to be in a position where I am able to chase after her without panting and running out of breathe
It’s easy to compare yourself with others or your current body to your previous body. Personally I keep comparing my current boob size to my previous one and wonder how women with breast augmentation manage because I love me a size small.lol. For this reason my appeal to society is to let mums be sometimes. They are judging themselves as it is and therefore they do not need outside pressure as well, they will get there at their own pace. some eager to get there faster than others.
In closing, another reason I really didn’t want to put my pictures up on the blog was because I know right now there is probably someone who has already taken a screenshot of this and sent to their besties on WhatsApp for discussion complete with shock emojis!!!! lol. However I felt like by being vulnerable and open, I will be able to help hundreds of y’all in my position who are wondering why… why is everyone losing the baby weight and not me? why is Everyone’s tummy back to being flat except mine? So and so didn’t get stretch marks ,why me? I’m just here to let you know that it’s okay, all in good time. Just like pregnancy, this period is unique to each and everyone of us. The only question I will ask is what are you currently doing about it??????
off shoulder matching set: tailored
photography: john okode
PS: these pictures are raw, I wanted to show it all as it is and will continue to do that in consecutive post because 8months from now, we need to see progress up in here.