The first thing I did when I got pregnant was to download an app called baby center as recommended by a friend of mine. I did well when it comes to updating myself week after week after week all through to delivery and I managed to research up until how and when a baby cries once you push.
That was the mistake I made, I hadn’t thought much about post partum. I was so consumed with pregnancy and ready to meet my baby in the end and forgot to enlighten myself about the after math. Most of the things caught me off guard while others I heard during the Lamaze classes and friends but I never got to know the extent to which they meant.For those who have children you will probably see familiar stuff and for those who are yet to, these are some of the things that you don’t get to hear about.
PS: I am going to be as honest as possible and as raw as it can get and I tried to recreate some of my pregnancy pictures with the baby. Hope you love them.
1)you will still look like you are 6 months pregnant
I remember when I checked into the hospital I saw familiar faces walking around and I remember asking one lady I knew if she just checked in to the hospital for delivery because her tummy was still huge and she told me she is about to check out with her baby. The shock!! I looked at her tummy and got confused. Well, the confusion ended when my turn came. Honey I know I wasn’t expecting a flat tummy but hell nooo,looking six months pregnant was not in my mind. funny thing though is that when you have a hearty laugh at that time ,your tummy (mummy pooch) moves like crazy since its literally just hanging there
2)You will bleed a lot especially on the first few days
This was the scary part of it all. A friend had mentioned bleeding but I took it as a normal menstrual cycle. Boy was I wrong!!!!!!! we are talking bleeding where by if you were to stand it’s similar to your water breaking and possibly might end up being all over the floor like in my case. I wanted to start breastfeeding immediately but since I blacked out and slept,they took my baby to the nursery. once I woke up and asked the nurse if I can breastfeed she told me to go to the nursery. I got up innocently and the next thing I knew there was blood every where. I tried running after the nurse(well,technically walking like a tortoise) and I kept leaving trails of blood. I completely freaked out. Thank God another nurse saw me and came to my rescue and took me back to bed. I was so scared I requested her to check if I’m bleeding to death or not.lol. the bleeding slowly decreases and lochia as it’s called can last upto six weeks and during this period you might end up wearing maternity pads or adult diapers! yep
3) Breastfeeding is not as simple as just giving boobs
I used to think breastfeeding is the easiest and most natural thing ever but it’s not, it is actually a whole technique like who knew mathematics is not the only tricky thing to grasp? This was definitely the most challenging thing post partum because if the baby does not latch onto your breast well, the nipples might end up cracking(true story) which is hella painful. It happened to me but thank God I managed that situation real quick with an amazing nipple cream. With a poor latch as well the baby might take in a lot of air which can give you one hell of a challenging time in case you don’t burp her well and especially if the baby develops colic(thank God we didn’t deal with colic). I literally had a complicated relationship with my boobs in short but Thank God for youtube videos, I managed to learn from this video filmed by global health. It’s an incredible life saver and I send it to all my friends who are first time mums
4)going for a long call is so damn scary
I am going to be gross on this post because it’s about time women normalize all these stuff that happen to us. If I am to describe giving birth(normal), It is somehow similar to constipation but with a high level of pain. Just like constipation,it is difficult to get it out at first, but immediately it is out,there is a sigh of relief. After delivery, the first post delivery poop can be a nightmare. some doctors will insert a suppository immediately after delivery to ensure you have loose stool. However later on at home while recovering and you get the urge to relieve yourself, you can even cry just thinking about it (personally I cried to be honest. more like overwhelmed with everything) At that moment you will remember your delivery experience and you also have stitches to worry about as well which in your mind you fear they will tear apart with every push. make vegetables and water your friend
5) your boobs will resemble wendy williams’
As if having bigger boobs during pregnancy is not enough, they tend to be even bigger when you are nursing. Mine are the size of the pair Wendy Williams has if not bigger. I think I’m carrying a continent up on here.. To make matters worse, your baby will probably just drain one boob when breastfeeding so you will be left with an unbalanced pair. Thank God for pumping otherwise you will look crazy in fitting clothes
6) You will be an emotional mess at some point
As a new mum you might find yourself crying for no reason. Between the hormonal surges and all the new changes in your house hold, it can be too much to handle. Not having a clue how to help your baby when she is crying all the way to thinking about what your body has been through can send you down the crying lane. It doesn’t help that at that time you are also struggling to have a good latch during breastfeeding .I was a victim of occasional break down. One day I was breastfeeding and the baby was being fussy and at that moment I felt like a failure. I hadn’t mastered breastfeeding and to add to that I had had my first poop(scary as indicated above) and I was just thinking about labour ,the stretch marks I acquired and the huge tummy which I was busy tying at that time and at that very moment, I felt like I had had enough and just broke down. Having a good support system can help you not get into depression
7)Abdominal after pains
You will experience cramping especially while breastfeeding the first few days as it tapers off in the coming weeks. Your uterus at that point is trying to shrink back to it’s normal pre pregnancy size hence the minor pains. From what I have read, the cramps are less painful with the first pregnancy since the muscles are so elastic. However with every pregnancy, you are likely to have stronger after pains
8)Your baby weight will keep you company
Don’t even think about wasting time calculating your baby’s weight plus the weight of your placenta and what not in the hopes that in that delivery room alone you have shed X amount of weight. You are even more likely to look bigger after delivery than when you were nine months old. can you believe that? lol.You still need a few more calories a day when breastfeeding so you can’t afford to be on diet. Breastfeeding helps in cutting down the calories so in most cases you are better of taking care of your little one and worrying about weight later. The pressure is real though for people like me who put ourselves out there so you can imagine. I thank God I have friends who keep reminding me what’s important right now, and that is my baby growing healthy. I will still blog though as I work on it
9)sex is scary and ranges between uncomfortable to painful
well, you just let a human being through your lady parts and I guess CS or normal, the thought of sex is daunting because you have wounds to think about and you will wonder if you are ready or not. Honestly I don’t hear much talk about this yet most women can experience discomfort between 4 to 8 months!!! Did you get that? MONTHS not weeks. Of course just like pregnancy this can vary from one person to the other. An understanding partner is like gold for sure.
10)Hair loss and receding hairline is real
Next time you see a momma with a hairline that starts in the middle of her head don’t even try to laugh because the struggle has been real. From what I know so far it is mainly caused by breastfeeding but the normal hair falling is as a result of your hormones going back to normal and therefore you do not have the extra estrogen that previously made your hair look fuller and longer during pregnancy. Personally I am on those calcium supplements like my life depends on them so I have had minimal hair loss but trust me, I know friends who have suffered with a capital S!!!
There you have it, incase I have forgotten anything just be a darling and leave a comment about it below. Someone recently asked me if motherhood has changed me and I feel like I am more or less the same person but I have been schooled on having patience and most importantly I now truly appreciate my own mum more than I did before. Especially the fact that she went through this six times is just incredible. With or without these aftermaths, motherhood is beautiful. That’s just how God planned it so take it and celebrate it.